Have you ever been able to help a friend who is going through a difficult time by offering them your guidance? Has it felt natural to you? Have you noticed how clear you are in identifying the problem and presenting them with the right solution? How about when you face a dilemma yourself? Do you have the same clarity as when helping your friend?
It is easier to see the clear picture when we help other people, but when it comes to facing our own challenges, we sometimes feel helpless even though we all have the ability to overcome our problems.
Have you wondered why? I quoted Einstein in another post and I find it so powerful that I’m including it here again. He says, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them”. I like this quote because it contains the truth behind why we don’t always find answers to our own problems: in order for us to solve our issues, we need to rise above the thinking that created them in the first place. Rising above the level of consciousness that caused the problem requires that we connect to our higher Self, keep a distance or in other words be detached and look at it in relation to the rest of our lives, the bigger picture.
We have an internal antenna that is constantly giving us feedback and points us towards the right answer; however our mind’s restlessness is keeping us from hearing and responding. Once our emotions are engaged, it becomes even more difficult to be detached and look at the issue objectively. The more we feed our emotions, the harder it gets to be clear on the steps we need to take in order to bring ourselves out of this supposedly helpless situation. In my previous posts, I wrote about ways we can be happy again and how we can reach our goals. They are helpful allies that can support us in difficult times.
The key is to be able to go within and create an inner sanctuary where we can retire to and replenish ourselves. Our daily rituals are very important in creating a vibration that allows us to tap into our inner wisdom: meditation, nurturing acts, expressions of compassion and love, etc. all lift our vibration and help us connect with our higher Self. This is a co-creative process meaning that once we do our best and surrender to our Divine Source, the higher intelligence that is within and without everything in the Universe, will assist us in manifesting our intentions. So, it is important to know what it is that we want to manifest. The next important point about this process is whether we pronounce it as a lack or as a possibility. In other words are we promoting negative vibrations around our problem or treating it as the means to grow?
When I feel helpless and down, I remind myself of how I would be if I tried helping others. Being detached from their problems, I have a clearer picture of what the solution is. This process helps me with finding an answer to my own issues because I am able to tune into my higher consciousness when I look at my problem from a detached place.
Try this simple exercise for help with this process:
Turn on a candle. You might want to play a soothing music to help with creating the right ambiance for relaxing and going within.
Close your eyes. Take several deep breaths to a comfortable count, hold your breath and breathe out for the same count. Repeat this 3 to 6 times.
Bring your focus to your heart and repeat the following affirmation first out loud, then whisper and eventually repeat it in your mind. Make sure you feel it as you repeat the affirmation:
“I have the power within me to overcome my problems. I am safe. All is well.”
Try this for at least 5 minutes several times a day. This helps you become more receptive to the positive signs around you and to connect to your own inner wisdom.
We all have the ability and power to rise above any difficulties we encounter. It is up to us to take ownership of our problems and do our best to overcome them. Finding the right language to express ourselves and sending the right vibration out regarding any difficulties we face will open up the doors to the solution. Help comes to us when we do our best. We are never alone.